Refrain from Anger - Vengeance Belongs to the Lord

"Be still before the Lord and wait patiently for him; do not fret when men succeed in their ways, when they carry out their wicked schemes. Refrain from anger and turn from wrath; do not fret —it leads only to evil." - Psalm 37:7-8

I can't help but wonder if David wasn't thinking (at least in part) of 1 Samuel 25 when he wrote the above portion of Psalm 37. 1 Samuel 25 tells how David, in a time of desperate need, asked for help from a man named Nabal, whom he had treated kindly, only to be refused and insulted. When this happened, David became furious. He gathered his men and prepared to take vengeance by killing Nabal and all the men who worked for him.

One of Nabal's servants learned of this and went and told Nabal's wife, Abigail, whom the Bible describes as a beautiful and intelligent woman:

"One of the servants told Nabal's wife Abigail: 'David sent messengers from the desert to give our master his greetings, but he hurled insults at them. Yet these men were very good to us. They did not mistreat us, and the whole time we were out in the fields near them nothing was missing. Night and day they were a wall around us all the time we were herding our sheep near them. Now think it over and see what you can do, because disaster is hanging over our master and his whole household. He is such a wicked man that no one can talk to him.'" - 1 Samuel 25:14-17

Abigail promptly gathered what supplies she could find, and went out and presented them to David, asking mercy for her husband, who she admitted was a fool. Her appeal to David is interesting:

"When Abigail saw David, she quickly got off her donkey and bowed down before David with her face to the ground. She fell at his feet and said: 'My lord, let the blame be on me alone. Please let your servant speak to you; hear what your servant has to say. May my lord pay no attention to that wicked man Nabal. He is just like his name—his name is Fool, and folly goes with him. But as for me, your servant, I did not see the men my master sent. 'Now since the Lord has kept you, my master, from bloodshed and from avenging yourself with your own hands, as surely as the Lord lives and as you live, may your enemies and all who intend to harm my master be like Nabal. And let this gift, which your servant has brought to my master, be given to the men who follow you. Please forgive your servant’s offense, for the Lord will certainly make a lasting dynasty for my master, because he fights the Lord’s battles. Let no wrongdoing be found in you as long as you live. Even though someone is pursuing you to take your life, the life of my master will be bound securely in the bundle of the living by the Lord your God. But the lives of your enemies he will hurl away as from the pocket of a sling. When the Lord has done for my master every good thing he promised concerning him and has appointed him leader over Israel, my master will not have on his conscience the staggering burden of needless bloodshed or of having avenged himself. And when the Lord has brought my master success, remember your servant.'” - 1 Samuel 25:23-31

David's response and its aftermath:

"David said to Abigail, 'Praise be to the Lord, the God of Israel, who has sent you today to meet me. May you be blessed for your good judgment and for keeping me from bloodshed this day and from avenging myself with my own hands. Otherwise, as surely as the Lord, the God of Israel, lives, who has kept me from harming you, if you had not come quickly to meet me, not one male belonging to Nabal would have been left alive by daybreak. Then David accepted from her hand what she had brought him and said, 'Go home in peace. I have heard your words and granted your request.' When Abigail went to Nabal, he was in the house holding a banquet like that of a king. He was in high spirits and very drunk. So she told him nothing until daybreak. Then in the morning, when Nabal was sober, his wife told him all these things, and his heart failed him and he became like a stone. About ten days later, the Lord struck Nabal and he died. When David heard that Nabal was dead, he said, 'Praise be to the Lord, who has upheld my cause against Nabal for treating me with contempt. He has kept his servant from doing wrong and has brought Nabal’s wrongdoing down on his own head.'” - 1 Samuel 25:32-39

When David chose not to avenge himself on Nabal, God honored this by dealing with Nabal Himself, and Abigail then became David's wife. David was spared the regret he would have later experienced at having acted impulsively, and was blessed in the process.

This principle is reiterated in the New Testament:

"You have heard that it was said, 'You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy.' But I say to you, love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who spitefully use you and persecute you, that you may be sons of your Father in heaven; for He makes His sun rise on the evil and on the good, and sends rain on the just and on the unjust." - Matthew 5:43-45

"Repay no one evil for evil. Have regard for good things in the sight of all men. If it is possible, as much as depends on you, live peaceably with all men. Beloved, do not avenge yourselves, but [rather] give place to wrath; for it is written, 'Vengeance [is] Mine, I will repay," says the Lord. Therefore 'If your enemy is hungry, feed him; If he is thirsty, give him a drink; For in so doing you will heap coals of fire on his head.' Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good." - Romans 12:17-21

Whatever comes your way in life, and no matter how badly others may treat you, restrain yourself from doing them evil in return. In this way, you will spare your conscience and bring blessing on yourself. Trust God to deal with the wicked in His own good time, as only He can do so with perfect righteousness.